Healing relationships

Online Workshop | on Zoom 

Starting 06 Feb 2025 | 7pm to 9pm IST | 2 hours 

6 days on alternative Thursdays

Facilitated by Prasad Naveen

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The process of a broken bone healing offers a metaphor for healing in relationships. 

• The Fracture:

  • Represents a rupture in the relationship.

  • Like a broken bone, the relationship's structure is compromised, causing pain, instability, and a sense of disconnection.

• The Healing Process:

  • Immobilisation: Similar to a cast or splint, the relationship may need a period of "immobilisation" – a conscious effort to reduce further damage and allow for reflection and healing. This might involve temporary separation, reduced contact, or focused communication on understanding the root of the issue.

  • Inflammation: Just as inflammation occurs around a broken bone, there may be emotional turmoil – anger, sadness, resentment – during the initial stages of relationship healing. These emotions, while painful, are a natural part of the process.

  • Callus Formation: This stage involves the gradual formation of new tissue, bridging the gap between the broken pieces. In relationships, this might involve open and honest communication, forgiveness, and a renewed commitment to understanding and compassion.

  • Remodeling: This is the long-term process of rebuilding and strengthening the relationship. It requires ongoing effort, patience, and a willingness to adapt and grow together. Just as a healed bone may be stronger than before, a healed relationship can emerge stronger and more resilient.

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The bone, once a rough, sharp and protruding testament to the violence of the break, begins its slow, miraculous mend.
Tiny threads of life, like shine reaching for the sun, weave themselves through the fractured edges.
Pain, a constant, searing presence, gradually subsides, replaced by a dull ache, a gentle hum of regeneration.

The fracture, once a deep wound in the bone's integrity, slowly fades.

It becomes a whisper in the bone's memory, a faint echo of the trauma.

The bone, reborn, stronger in its newfound wholeness, bears the mark of its past, a subtle curve, a slight thickening, a testament to the resilience of life and the enduring power of healing.

Focusing on developing the core of a personality

Healing relationships begins with self-awareness. To truly connect with others, we must first understand ourselves. This involves delving deep into our personality, exploring its core values, beliefs, and motivations. What are our strengths and what is its essence ? What are our deepest fears and desires?

By honestly examining these aspects, we gain valuable insights into our patterns of expressions and behaviour and how they impact our interactions with others. This self-reflection allows us to identify areas for personal growth and cultivate self-compassion. When we understand our own inner workings, we can communicate our needs and boundaries more effectively, fostering healthier and more authentic connections with others.

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Developing an expansion from that personality

While understanding our core personality is crucial, it's equally important to allow for growth and expansion.

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We are not static beings; we are constantly evolving. Life experiences, new relationships, and personal challenges all contribute to our ongoing development. Embracing this growth requires a willingness to step outside our comfort zones, explore new perspectives, and embrace change. This may involve cultivating new skills, pursuing new interests, or challenging limiting beliefs that hinder our personal and relational growth. By allowing ourselves to evolve, we become more adaptable, resilient, and open to deeper, more meaningful connections with others.

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Developing the essence: of Innocence, Strength, Relationship, intimacy, passion, curiosity, Expression etc. while the expansion happens Healing relationships involves cultivating a rich inner landscape. This involves nurturing qualities such as innocence, strength, relationship, intimacy, passion, curiosity, and expression. Innocence, in this context, refers to a sense of openness, wonder, and vulnerability – a willingness to be present in the moment without judgment or cynicism. Strength, on the other hand, encompasses resilience, self-reliance, and the ability to set healthy boundaries. Cultivating these qualities alongside our personal expansion allows us to navigate challenges with grace and compassion, both within ourselves and in our relationships.

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Dealing with the shadows and transforming the shadows to strength

We all carry shadows – the darker aspects of our personality that we may be unwilling to acknowledge or accept. These shadows may include anger, jealousy, fear, or a sense of inadequacy. Ignoring or suppressing these shadows can lead to inner turmoil and sabotage our relationships. Healing requires acknowledging and accepting these darker aspects of ourselves. This doesn't mean condoning harmful behaviour, but rather understanding the root causes of these shadows and working through them with compassion and self-compassion. By integrating our shadows, we gain greater self-awareness and develop a more integrated sense of self. This inner work can be challenging, but it is essential for building strong, authentic, and fulfilling relationships.​​​

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Impact of 5 elements in relationships

• Earth:

  • Essence of  Stability, grounding, practicality, and physical presence.

  • In Relationships: Fosters a sense of security, trust, and shared values. Provides a solid foundation for the relationship, encouraging commitment and reliability. Helps overcome feelings of instability and insecurity.

• Water:

  • Essence of Stories, relationships, emotions, fluidity, receptivity, and intuition.

  • In Relationships: Encourages empathy, compassion, and emotional intimacy. Allows for the free flow of feelings and vulnerability. Helps overcome rigidity and cultivate deeper emotional connections.

• Fire:

  • Essence of  Passion, energy, transformation, and enthusiasm.

  • In Relationships: Ignites intimacy, sparks creativity, and fuels emotional expression. Helps overcome apathy and cultivate joy and vitality in the connection.

• Air:

  • Essence of Expression, Communication, intellect, freedom, and lightness.

  • In Relationships: Fosters open and honest communication, encourages intellectual stimulation, and allows for personal growth and individual expression. Helps overcome stagnation and encourages a sense of spaciousness within the relationship.

• Space:

  • Essence of the vastness of potential.

  • In Relationships: Encourages a sense of spaciousness, allowing for individual growth while maintaining a strong connection. Fosters a deeper understanding of oneself and one's partner within the larger context of the universe. Helps overcome feelings of limitation and cultivate a sense of freedom within the relationship.